Monthly Archives: October 2012

Forever alone

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WARNING – EXPLICIT CONTENT

Happy Sunday to you all.

So I wanted to post about a variety different things because I’m feeling mouthy and very catty. However my mother has since calmed me so you miss out on my rant.

Just kidding

So my inspiration for this piece started when I went to go get my eyebrows threaded. There were three girls possibly aged around seven. I can’t guarantee you their age but they looked seven and had the mentality of two-year olds.

So there I was getting my eyebrows ripped to pieces when I hear one say “forever alone”.

You should know that I have a habit of snorting – as in laughter not cocaine.

I almost lost an eyebrow because I was laughing so hard. I haven’t heard such stupidity in my whole life. This is coming out of the mouths of children who haven’t hit puberty. This poor girl went on for 10 minutes about how she will never find and I quote “a man”. My mind can’t even digest half of the things I heard. It’s the first time I had ever heard it said aloud although I know the trend has been around for a while.

Don’t assume that because I heard a girl say it that boys are innocent. Too many of my male twitter followers have said “forever alone” too.  I understand that many say it as a joke – that’s fine but I know how many of you say it seriously. Believe me I know the difference.

Age and gender are irrelevant but ‘romance’ shouldn’t even be in your mind until you’re 16 – and it’s only because we know the meaning of hormones.  I understand that its human nature to want some company I do but the desperation needs to stop.

Ask yourself this – will I honestly find someone if I complain I’m forever alone.

I’m just going to answer this for all of you NONONONONONONONO. Well some of you might but all you’re doing is putting yourself down. When you stop caring about finding someone it will just happen.  I’m not saying that today you stop caring and tomorrow equals relationship time.  What I am saying is people need time and things will develop itself over time. If you like/love someone who doesn’t feel the same way it doesn’t mean you’re forever alone. It means that one day you’ll get lucky and find someone who feels the same but twice as much.

It’s got the point where this dumbass trend has memes

Here are some of my favourite

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 Seriously though have you all lost your sanity?

If you were a thirty year old and you said forever alone, I may understand you more than a seven-year old but just don’t.

Let me give you all an example.

You go on Twitter or Facebook to check out the person you like.  Get to the profile you see-

Person you like: I’m forever alone :’( poor me.

That would be enough for me to change my mind. Confidence is sexy. Own yourself and everything else follows. We may not find everyone in this world attractive but it’s guaranteed that a lot of people will find YOU attractive.

We bring ourselves down to often but you need to walk around like you’re the hottest mofo on earth. Every second we use criticising ourselves is a pointless second lost. If you aren’t confident just pretend – eventually it starts working.

For those who will read this and still believe their forever alone I pinky promise you if we hit 50 and were single we can go live in an igloo and have our own forever alone club.

Bullying

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The Amanda Todd epidemic has taken Facebook and Twitter by storm.

Amanda Todd was a 15-year-old Canadian teenager whose suicide was attributed to cyber-bullying through the social networking website Facebook.

Amanda posted a video on YouTube on the 09/07/2012 in which she used a series of flash cards to tell of her experience of being blackmailed, bullied, and physically assaulted. Amanda mentions sending an image of her breasts to a man who later circulated it around the internet.

Her suicide sparked a lot of contreversary – with many of my twitter followers tweeting that that she asked for it and deserved to die. I don’t think I can put into words how disgusted I was reading my news feed.  I think anyone that makes fun of suicide is scum off this earth. Amanda Todd made one mistake that ultimately led to her taking her own life. One mistake that turned everyone against her. One mistake she couldn’t rectify.  I don’t applaud her for showing her breasts to a stranger – but I’m nobody to judge her and neither are you.

Have you ever made a mistake you wish you could take back?

Suicide is still a taboo which creates ignorance. The less people know they more they speculate  – if you even understood a fraction of what some people go through on a daily basis then you would never ever begin to judge.  At one time or another we all hit rock bottom and we may wish we were dead – but crossing the line and taking our lives is completely different.

Ultimately this this is about the thousands of people who commit suicide a year.  In 2010 there were 5,608 suicides in people aged 15 years and over in the UK. That’s a staggering figure. Care minister Norman Lamb said: “Over the last 10 years there has been real progress in reducing the suicide rate, but it is still the case that someone takes their own life every two hours in England”. Every two hours – pause and think about that.

Imagine what the statistics would be like globally. I don’t dare think.

A friend of mine posed an interesting question as to why people commit suicide. I’ve been racking my brain and Google and I can’t give you a straight answer.

There is hardly any evidence to explain why some people commit suicide especially when other people in similar circumstances don’t.  According to the NHS website there are some factors that make someone more vulnerable include:

  • life history – for example having a traumatic experience during childhood, such as a bereavement
  • lifestyle – people who misuse alcohol and drugs are at increased risk of suicidal thoughts
  • job – poor job security, low levels of job satisfaction or not  having a job can increase a person’s risk of dying by suicide
  • relationships – people who are socially isolated and have few close relationships with others have a higher risk of dying by suicide

You can find a few other factors – http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/suicide/Pages/Causes.aspx

In an ideal world we would be able to prevent suicide – but we live in a pile of shit so unfortunately we can’t. However individually we can make changes in our lives. We can speak to the person in our class nobody talks too; we can volunteer for purpose based charities. Small acts of kindness may go a long way. We need to mourn the lives of those who have committed suicide not ridicule.

Suicide affects every age group and the majority of stories aren’t heard.

The world works in a cause and effect way. Everything we do and say has effects.  Instead of calling someone ugly – smile at someone because it may just change their entire day.

WordPress meet Natalie.

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For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Natalie but feel free to call me natti, natty or simply just nat. I’m a Journalism student studying at City University London.

If I could only use one word to describe 2012 it would be therapeutic. It was  a year of self- exploration which allowed me to see the world through many different eyes. During the summer I took daily notes on everything I saw, the people I met and the things I heard. I learnt that it doesn’t matter who you are, we all face the same struggles at different times.

Originally I wanted to write a blog that was ‘newsy’  seeing as I’m doing a Journalism degree, but that isn’t right for me. I can’t tell you why I just like to write entertainment pieces or pieces revolving around society.

My blog is the equivalent of YouTube videos, people use YouTube to speak to the world whereas I write.

I am slightly controversial so don’t take any of my views too personally.

I hope you enjoy reading my blog as much as I’ll enjoy writing.